Baby, You’re A Firework

by | Updated: December 3rd, 2016 | Read time: 2 minutes

You know who the sexiest woman in the world is? No, not Scarlet Johansen. You. Yes, that’s right. Do you know why? Because you know exactly what you want out of each and every sexual encounter you have with your man. Sometimes it’s all about you, and sometimes, it’s definitely about him, and on the most awesome days it’s the perfect blend of love and sexual satisfaction flawlessly attained through mutual gratification. Translation: You know what feels good to you and have shared this information with your man.

If you’re looking at me like I’m a two-headed alien or giving me the side-eye thinking, “I could never tell him I like that,” or worse, “I’m not even sure I can orgasm,” then I have an assignment for you. Ready? Here we go.

Pick out three toys from and commit to trying each of them once. If you’re feeling shy, you don’t have to share them with your man…yet. Experiment with a less intimidating toy focused on external stimulation instead of going straight for the 9 inch lifelike dildo. The California Exotic Novelties Flutter is quiet, compact, and strong. The little wings provide full contact while the hummingbird beak works as a pinpoint stimulator.

At the next level, go for a slim and sleek toy, like the Lelo Intimina Raya , to explore the joys of penetration and g-spot massage. It also offers 16 speed variations and 6 vibration patterns for maximum clitoral stimulation. The Raya isn’t overwhelming in size and is just right for solo play.

Last, but not least, choose something that pushes you outside of your comfort zone a bit. “But I’m already doing that buying these toys,” you say. Trust me, once you’re comfortable with the two afore mentioned types of toys, you’re going to want to up the ante. Something like the CalExotics Triple Action Arouser is perfect, providing stimulation everywhere you know you want it, as well as in some areas you had thought about but were nervous about trying.

All of these toys are waterproof, so you can take any of them in the shower and lock the door, embarking on your personal journey to find the perfect combination of sensations to bring you to climax. Take time and see what feels right. Three to the left, twelve to the right, seven back to the left, what ever it is, once you find the combination to the lock, you’ll be seeing fireworks for sure.

“The Bombshell Mommy” is written by Abigail Blank, romance author and mother of three. Frozen Heart and its sequel, Melted Tears, are published under her pen name: Annabelle Blume. Got a question about how to juggle it all and still be a Bombshell? Email Abigail at, connect with her on Facebook, follow her on Twitter @Bombshell_Mommy and look for her on Pinterest.