What is it about sex that makes people so uncomfortable? We all got here the same way. Our parents did the deed. Danced the horizontal mambo. Bumped uglies. Call it what you want, but it all means the same thing. That thought may make you scream for brain bleach but it’s reality. Sex is a normal part of a healthy and happy adult life and I, for one, am tired of people acting like it’s something that should be a source of shame or embarrassment.
Sex is beautiful. It’s a firework-filled display of love, passion, and excitement. It’s how we celebrate our marriage, how we create our children, and what has kept the human race going for millions of years. Our bodies are built to be honored and enjoyed. The conversation of our health is always about nutrition and exercise. But I say, what about sex?
We need to embrace our sexuality. There is power in positivity. Let’s abandon the negativity about sex that crushes its beauty. Value assessments placed on whether you’re having too little, too much, the wrong kind, with the wrong person, for the wrong reason, and on and on, are debilitating.
We absolutely need to get to the point where we can have open, honest dialogue about sex. It’s imperative to our health – emotionally and physically – and to our ability to have strong, functioning relationships, and even more importantly, to be able to talk to our kids as they grow and have questions for us.
Because, Bombshells, those dark little corners where all of that negativity lives is a breeding ground for all of the bad and scary things we DON’T want sex to be about. When shame and judgment accompany sexual desire, it grows into a mutated monster, wreaking havoc on self esteem, body image and behaviors.
Be the safe place for your child to ask you questions. Be the knowledgeable girlfriend who can help her best friend figure out if she has a yeast infection or is allergic to the spermicide she used. Be the wife with whom her husband can share his most secret desires and be met with excitement and intrigue. Be the woman who can look in the mirror and say, “I have sex, I like sex and I am proud to honor my body and its needs.”
Be a Bombshell.
“The Bombshell Mommy” is written by Abigail Blank, romance author and mother of three. Frozen Heart and its sequel, Melted Tears, are published under her pen name: Annabelle Blume. Got a question about how to juggle it all and still be a Bombshell? Email Abigail at thebombshellmommy@gmail.com, connect with her on Facebook, follow her on Twitter @Bombshell_Mommy and look for her on Pinterest.