The Dos and Don’ts of Using Lube

Abigail Blank - The Upside Blog |

by | Updated: December 3rd, 2016 | Read time: 3 minutes

People like to make jokes about lube. And there’s a ridiculous stigma sometimes associated with using lubricant during sex. I have many opinions on why, but I’ll save those for another day. There are many reasons you should have not just one, but many types of sexual lubricant on hand.

First, if you’re going to be using toys of any kind, they will be far more pleasurable if you’re using them in conjunction with a great lubricant. This is especially true if you are engaging in any type of anal play (toys or no toys).

Promise me this right now. Raise your right hand and repeat after me: “I, Bombshell (insert your name here), will not participate in anal play without large quantities of proper sexual lubricant.”

Awesome, let’s continue. So, the second reason you need to have a variety of types of lube on hand is that they can add a fun and exciting element to your sex life. Let’s take a stroll through and learn about all of the great types of lube available to you, ready to arrive in a discreet box on your doorstep.

Flavored lubricants not only make sex fun, but they enhance the oral pleasures of your love making. Wet makes a variety of flavors including Strawberry, Blueberry, and Passionfruit. Embrace a silly or kinky side of yourself. Flavored lube reminds you to slow down and enjoy each other.

There are sensual lubricants meant to arouse the mind and the body. Rich aromas of exotic scents or skin tingling stimulants are added to these products. Kama Sutra makes Oil of Love which can be used as a massage oil and a lubricant because it’s water based. There’s also the Intensifying PLUS Female Arousal Gel that creates a soft tingling sensation just where you need it most or the Intensifying Gel Warming that increases sensitivity of the clitoris and heightens sexual pleasure.

Last, but definitely not least, there are straightforward sexual lubricants. Some of the most popular of these are the natural products. Many companies are now offering organic or naturally based sexual lubricants. You can choose from Wet Naturals Beautifully Bare, Good Clean Love Almost Naked Personal Lubricant, Dreambrands G Female Stimulating Gel  and many more at

Listen, Bombshells, the way society typically represents female sexuality, as hyper-orgasmic receptacles of men’s sexual desires, creates an image of the ever-aroused female who wouldn’t (and shouldn’t) need lube. You need to abandon this idea.

Now that you’re more familiar with the types of sexual lubricants out there, pick out a few to keep in the rotation and put them in your nightstand drawer or your box of fun. You can even set a regular delivery schedule using Set & Save, so you never run out.

“The Bombshell Mommy” is written by Abigail Blank, romance author and mother of three. Frozen Heart and its sequel, Melted Tears, are published under her pen name: Annabelle Blume. Got a question about how to juggle it all and still be a Bombshell? Email Abigail at, connect with her on Facebook, follow her on Twitter @Bombshell_Mommy and look for her on Pinterest.